Have you ever been told that time heals all wounds?
It’s a comforting thought, right?
A glimmer of hope when you find yourself fighting with emotional pain.
However, I want to challenge this notion and shed light on the fallacy of time as a miraculous cure for your deepest hurts.
There are moments when life throws challenges at you that seem impossible to overcome.
You experience pain, heartbreak, and loss that cuts deep into your soul.
During these times, you’re often told that time will heal your wounds.
You’re encouraged to be patient and wait for the pain to slowly fade away.
𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐟 𝐢𝐭 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬𝐧’𝐭?
What if the passage of time doesn’t seem to diminish the ache within you?
When time doesn’t fulfill that promise, it can be disheartening and confusing.
You may start questioning yourself, wondering why you can’t heal like others seem to do.
You may feel frustrated, stuck in a seemingly never-ending cycle of grief or heartache.
Just like my client, who experienced a painful loss with the passing of her father.
As time goes by, the days turn into months, and eventually, 20 years pass.
Yet, the pain remains as fresh and raw as ever.
I could see that in her eyes when we started to talk about it.
Memories continue to trigger a flood of emotions, and the mere thought of her beloved dad brought tears to her eyes.
Despite the passage of time, healing seems impossible.
It’s as if it happened yesterday.
𝐒𝐨 𝐰𝐡𝐲 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐬𝐚𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐩𝐚𝐢𝐧?
I even saw it in the movie yesterday, that’s why I had to write about it.
Whatever you heard before, LISTEN NOW!
Time can’t heal your pain or address the deeply rooted emotions, limiting beliefs and unhealed trauma that keep you bounded by your pain.
𝐖𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞, 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐨𝐧𝐥𝐲 𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐮𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐯𝐲 𝐛𝐚𝐠𝐠𝐚𝐠𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐢𝐭.
But it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t resurface from time to time and break your heart over and over again.
…It happens when you see a father with his daughter in a movie…
…during family celebrations when he is not there to create the warm atmosphere…
…or when it’s supposed to be his birthday…
There are countless situations.
𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐭’𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐲 𝐢𝐭’𝐬 𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥.
Moreover, your brain doesn’t distinguish between reality and memory, so every time you remember, it hurts you again.
Your body reacts as if it’s a real situation happening right now, releasing stress hormones and poisoning your body with them!
𝐒𝐨, 𝐦𝐲 𝐜𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐝 𝐛𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐩𝐨𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝟐𝟎 𝐲𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐬!
So how would you like to experience your life?
in pain?
or
in happiness?
You can remember your loved ones with love, and they would surely want you to live a happy life instead of grieving for such a long time.
So who wants to live with heavy baggage?
Hands up!
I see nobody. 😀
YOU CAN DROP IT NOW.
𝐒𝐨 𝐥𝐞𝐭’𝐬 𝐝𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐝𝐞𝐞𝐩𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐨𝐠𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐨 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐞𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠.
Healing is an active process, so you can actually take control over your healing journey rather than passively relying on time.
It’s much more powerful if you ask for guidance, protection, and healing assistance from Allah (SWT) right from the beginning.
Then recall the painful memory.
Remember you’re safe, under Allah (SWT) protection.
Locate the pain in your body.
Where do you feel it?
Do you feel pressure, sharp pain, or heaviness?
Place your hand on the part of your body where you feel the pain and stay there.
Try to breathe deeply.
You can close your eyes and just be present.
Embrace your pain and fully engage with it.
Feel it even if it’s painful.
Do not close the door to your emotions because healing involves feeling.
Your emotions also want to be seen, heard and expressed.
They are here for a reason, NOT to be Ignored.
If you do not process your emotions and instead push them away or ignore them, they get stuck within you and create even more pain in your life.
Let the emotions come and go, and allow yourself to express them.
You can cry…
You can shout…
or do whatever you feel like doing.
Listen to your body and let it guide you.
There will be memories that come up, but try to only observe them.
Do not engage with them, as it can lead you into a spiral of overthinking and create further pain for yourself.
Let the memories come and let them go again.
After some time, you will feel a huge relief.
Many of my clients have expressed it as a heavy weight being removed from their chest, allowing them to breathe more lightly and freely.
It’s an amazing and uplifting moment.
Show yourself a lot of love.
You can hug yourself tightly and appreciate how far you have come.
Recognize your strength and how amazing you are.
Give a huge thank you to Allah SWT for the support throughout this healing journey.
Let gratitude fill your heart, and then rest well.
Whenever a painful memory appears, repeat the process.
Those are the layers that come up when you are ready to process them.
Through our sessions with the mentioned client, she also discovered that the path to healing was not about burying her pain.
Through this journey, she discovered the strength to rise above her past, rebuild her life, and step into emotional freedom.
She was empowered to take charge of her emotional well-being and reclaim her life.
𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐞𝐱𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐬 𝐟𝐚𝐫 𝐛𝐞𝐲𝐨𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐮𝐫𝐟𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐰𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐬.
When you begin the journey of true healing, your newfound strength and resilience permeate every aspect of your life.
You become powerful, courageous, joyful, and able to experience and see the beauty that this world offers.
Your relationships will flourish, and your personal growth will reach new heights.
A renewed sense of purpose will fuel your soul.
You will radiate confidence and inspire others to start their own transformative paths and live their best lives, just like you!
It will feel like someone has taken a huge weight from you, and suddenly you feel like you can fly.
So let’s FLY, really HIGH!
BUT Together, we can speed up the healing process and make peace with it.
…Using the power of my signature proven subconscious rewiring process and healing, Neuroluminence, which is very gentle but fast, combined with a very simple but incredibly powerful mind and spiritual practices, took us only 15 minutes to heal her pain!
If you’re ready to break free from the chains of time and pain and want to finally change your situation, book a session with me and you’ll see that miracles don’t just happen in fairy tales.
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Andrea Khadijah